Johnny comes home late from school with scratches on his face and he was too late and then you tell him that he's grounded for screaming too late, and he is not in for a snack as punishment as well have. Johnny runs up the stairs to his room, panting as he pulls on his uniform. The tears slowly rolled down his cheek Cherubic, burning the reason he got in today's school kids that teased him about being overweight.
Changing into his "after school"Clothes, which he pulls a hidden bar of chocolate from the drawer and tears the wrapper and eat it almost without noticing what he is doing .... Sadness, a feeling of not belonging, and anger filled his little heart and soul.
Johnny is only 9 years old. A variety of things can happen to Johnny ... it can grow into a surly teenager and a band to get a sense of "belonging" to think or may grow, that what he should do, he can not .... Because of its lack of self-willWorth.
The greatest gift you can give your child is "self". We both grew up in a world where "self" never came until we were so much older and then we had to cancel on the time to take what had happened .... As parents, you now have the knowledge, so why not give your child the greatest gift of all: self worth to enable them to grow up to be the person they should be!
The above scenario would have been a little different if the parents wouldJohnny have what happened ... I asked him to explain that got through the teasing about his weight, he angrily and press the other boys and in return got a scratch. This scenario now gives you the parents the opportunity to discuss a variety of things .... Hitting other children, to declare that the children tease to other physical differences and other differences that might manifest religion, social status, to be like, their parents, ethnic background and other things that people thinkcan be "different".
Bring this type of conversation is "awareness", a child's development is important and hopefully you an adult at the hands of 10 years from now that people who appreciate them as human beings.
So the next time you angry and want to shout out a multitude of things that can range from "your stupid" "You are worthless," "You will not get to anything" not do "or the old" Go to your room "... take ...a deep breath ... .. Tell your child that you are with him, they speak in about 10 minutes and think what is happening. In this way you can think your child to ... and for you to regain their composure.
Discipline is an important part of being an exceptional parent .... This takes longer than most other things, as it is repetitive and needs to be conducted on an ongoing basis .... But you do it in private, not to humiliate, not your child. This is when most damage is worth to self-determination of a child occurs becauseThey are angry ... and spouting words that you promised when you were growing up, you'd never say ... and you will see a similar pattern to repeat that of the parents.
Encourage them in public! This will raise your child's mood and allow others to see how proud your child if they paint of a finger, hang on the fridge or the final homerun scoring on the game. Their children and to you, you are their coaches, parents, role model and behavioris a trademark as they see adults and relationships in the future, I know Cam is no longer being a parent as you are raising children: raising, but the adults of tomorrow.
Self Esteem is strengthened with your support. Encourage your child to do what he / she wants to do, not some old imagination, you had to grow up ... You are not increase as a "mini" version of yourself, you educate a person who may indeed have physical properties and similarities with you ... they are notThem.
Encouragement is better than to praise. Also, take the words like "you could do better" in your litany, as this leads to a child the feeling that no matter what they did is not good enough.
Failure .... A word that I despise as a child .... The word is not even be pronounced. Whatever your child is doing, from piano lessons, coloring in her book, ballet or writing paper for school ... teach them that any attempt to take on a road. On each route theywill be confronted with "yellow lights" on "Stop" sign, "" Traffic "and all the other analogies you want to do .... and in this way at times temporary setbacks can be reached on the way .... Encourage your child with words such as "persistent", "endurance." Never tell a child that he / she has failed or can not succeed.
Tell them that every time his own place on the street (which does not even compare siblings or your child to others) ... the journey of life is one that can be filledwith such joy when we are taught that every "setback" to grow just a learning process for us. This instilled at a very early age your child will grow up knowing that life is a journey, with decisions taken and each will allow them to continue to ... ... on their journey!
And remember ... if they do not know with, say, what to put .... A hug speaks louder than most words you say never!
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